The words “I love you” have great significance in our lives and in some cultures Valentine’s Day is a day devoted to this and many other of expressions of love. It is a beautiful tradition with one significant drawback – Valentine’s Day is focused entirely on our love for others.
Last year I suggested finding time to write “an old-fashioned, straight-from-the-heart, love-letter to yourself.” The response was fascinating. A number of women posted comments on this website but many more sent e-mails to me about their experience when they followed through on this suggestion.
None of the women I know put themselves at the top of their Valentine’s Day list or any other list of people who need their love and attention. So listen to that inner voice that is saying, “I could use some love and kindness” and ignore the one that is saying “There’s no time. So many people are depending on me.”
I lovingly suggest that you consider doing one of these things for YOU, or use them as thought-starters for something that would really make you smile this Valentine’s Day (or any day)!
– Call or e-mail a friend who makes you laugh and schedule a lunch or dinner sometime soon
– Make a playlist of songs that you find uplifting, then sing and dance while listening to it
– Compose an “I am amazing because…” list of all your wonderful attributes
– Schedule time to do something that you love to do but for which you rarely (if ever) find time, even if it is just for an hour or two.
– Take a luxurious bath with fragrant bath salts and soothing music
– Write a heartfelt love letter to yourself
Sending a big hug and wishing you a happy, “love yourself” Valentine’s Day and days of February! Remember that no one deserves your love and attention more than you.