I love REAL conversations. Over the past few weeks I have been extremely fortunate to experience intensely positive reconnections with five women I know, all a result of having real conversations with them. In each case, we did not talk about the weather or international news headlines or great food, we discussed the experiences, feelings, and decisions that are foundational in our lives.
All women inspire me as I navigate the steps (and missteps) of my life’s path, and the recent discussions with these five women are the best examples of how this inspiration occurs. Last night I found myself wondering why I did not choose to make every conversation with every person as deeply touching and energizing as those that motivated me to write this blog.
Why does it matter?
On December 31, 2012 I promised myself that in the New Year I would have only real conversations, talking to others only about things that truly mattered. In making that resolution, I asked myself, “What is the point of not making the effort to genuinely connect when talking with anyone anywhere?”
In 2013, my implementation of that resolution was inconsistent at best. I simply did not have the stamina to be “all in” in every conversation or to encourage others to be. One of many well-used phrases in my self-talk is, “It’s a process.” And this process has taken longer and has been more challenging than I had expected. Members of my family, as well as friends, colleagues, and many of you, have patiently and generously walked this path with me. You have, metaphorically, opened your arms and your hearts, and I am deeply, deeply grateful.
As I type this piece, I thank all of you who have been part of this quest and I ask you all to hold me accountable to my commitment. Feel free at any time to ask, “Is this a real conversation, Sharon?” And if you are willing, I will ask the same of you. I believe that our lives will be fuller, richer and more meaningful if we do.